Are you bored? Yes, you! Stop analyzing this. Just answer the question. Maybe I should share my experience with you which will aid in your self-discovery. My name is O.B. and I AM BORED! There, I said it, my confession. Don’t judge me. I’m not a bad person, nor do I want to scare or hurt anyone, but I want to be truthful about life. I dearly love my family and will do whatever I can to help them, but I’m BORED. I’m a minister and I cherish my church family, but I’m BORED. Many people, including myself, are living lives of complete and constant boredom. You are probably thinking: what does he mean? Good question.
I’m BORED with trying to live a life that others deem is good and honorable.
I’m BORED with being identified by what I do rather than who I am, and people using that to leverage their perceived value system upon me.
I’m BORED with worrying about other’s perception of me.
I’m BORED with people limiting me, telling me that I CAN’T do something because I’m not smart enough, I don’t have enough money, or I’m too old.
I’m BORED with the politics of everyday life.
I’m BORED with myself for allowing these things to affect me in negative ways!!!
Dylan Thomas said, “Somebody’s boring me…I think it’s me.
What!! That’s strange. But, it’s true. What are you bored with? Why are we allowing others to rob us of our joy and fulfillment in life? Boredom is a chemical weapon that eats away our emotions and buries our passion. There’s so much to experience in life. Life is meaningful and offers you endless possibilities to accomplish something great, but we must bury boredom and walk in destiny. To walk in destiny; a destination that is bright and gratifying, begins with self-discovery. Self-discovery is a two-part process.
First, we renounce the labels that have been attached to our character. I’m sure you have had people speak negatively about you, right? It happens all the time. What people don’t realize is that words are powerful. Once a word is spoken it cannot be retrieved. It’s like an arrow, once it’s fired, it’s gone. Words influence us in negative and positive ways. We must remind ourselves that people have opinions about our character, heritage, etc., but those opinions aren’t necessarily true. Some of the cruelest, vilest words people say are from those who say they love us. Someone once said that “no one hurts you more than those that say they love you.” Have you been hurt by family members or friends? The feelings of despair and alienation that you are experiencing right now are largely the result of family or friends scrutinizing you. It’s a shame. I’ve experienced that as well. Not from my immediate family, but from others. I’ve been told that I wasn’t smart enough, that I shouldn’t worry about finishing up my Master’s Degree, I should just go and find a job. Huh!!! Why assault my intellect like that? Essentially what you are saying is that I should just give up on my dream. Are you following what I’m saying? I’ve been told that I like to stir up controversy. Really? Just because I like to think outside of the box and I don’t rest my convictions upon consensus doesn’t mean I like drama. It simply means that I like to do my own research and arrive at truth as I perceive it. Is there anything wrong with that? LABELS, LABELS AND LABELS! People love to define and describe you.
The attitude of our generation is:
1. Republican or Democratic….at war
2. Liberal or Conservative…at war
3. Race…at war
4. Male or Female…at war
5. East or West…at war
Fussing, fighting, labeling, ostracizing, defining, describing, these are some key terms and ideologies in our world. This idea of exclusion and isolation is a cancer that is destroying us. We MUST let go of these marks. You aren’t what they say about you. It’s a difficult bridge to burn, but BURN IT!
Secondly, we must see who we are. Relying on an outside source is unwarranted and ill-informed and will leave us in a state of disillusionment. Self-discovery is a precious gift that we should give to ourselves daily. Who am I? First of all, you aren’t what you do. This is very important. We role-play in life. I know, this isn’t very popular to say, but popularity doesn’t bring happiness, truth does. We ALL role-play. I role-play as a father, husband, minister, friend, encourager, giver, etc. At its core, there is nothing wrong with this. As a matter of fact, it’s necessary. The problem is when we start identifying ourselves by what we do rather than who we are. Again, self-discovery is paramount for continued happiness. Well then, who am I? I am a product of God’s creation and am profoundly loved by God. That is who I am. God doesn’t create junk, nor does he create second class citizens. When you fully realize that God loves you for who you really are, you are on the road to self-discovery. Trust God’s vision of you. God says you can do it. He believes in the unique gifts that you have. He doesn’t minimize your intellectually ability, nor does he call you into retirement once you have reached a particular age. Money isn’t an issue with God. You are here for a season. That season is full of potential and power if we believe in God’s purpose in life; to live in happiness. Discover your true self. Align your vision with God’s and strive for greatness. Believe all things are possible. Don’t fret over the little ants that want to bite at your character, they’re small and have no knock down power.
I WAS really bored with myself. I finally got tired of it. I tried soooo long to live by the standards of others, but was getting nowhere in life. I dressed the part, talked their talk, and walked their walk until I realized that I was a dead man walking. I was never whole, always depressed and stressed, wondering why life had folded up on me. Through all that I’ve been through I now know that I CANNOT let others mold my life. It starts with me, being honest with who I am and acknowledging that God created me this way and the way that I honor God is by living fully in this present state of consciousness.
I’m not perfect, but I’m much healthier than I once was. Occasionally I still get bored with my life, but I’m now aware where this feeling originates and I know how to remedy the problem…Self-discovery, an understanding that I CAN DO IT, and the recognition that God is for me will empower me to pull the labels off.